Realities They Don’t Teach You in School

Putting aside my thoughts on how unnecessarily dictating school was, I still have to concede, I did learn so many things; from languages, how to make a spanish omelette, the reproductive system to finding the factor of X; all great. But being a 20-something year old college graduate with a somewhat presence in the job market, I’ve disappointedly come to the realization that I wasn’t taught some of the things that I REALLY needed to keep in mind; Perhaps if I had been taught these things from the outset, I most likely would not have had to be unexpectedly smacked in the face with all these realities. And so, I’ve enthusiastically gone ahead and compiled a small list of things that are unfortunately not taught in school, but absolutely should!

International Students House, London

Relaxing on the beautiful summer grass with your multicultural friends
Please refer to your college brochure for this. You know that one deceiving photo that colleges use as the front cover for their brochures consisting of a group of multi-ethnic students sitting on the grass on an impeccable summer day, giving off a “there is nowhere else we would rather be” impression? It is all lies. You would be swamped by assignments and projects so much so that the only time you would most likely be opportuned to experience those magical summer days would be either after exams or on graduation day; and I am highly doubtful that anyone would want to even feel the breeze that roams the campus let alone relax on the grass on ANY of these days.

Goodluck With the Job Quest

You are taught that good grades are everything. Those who get good grades get good jobs. Here’s a very common scenario; it’s been six months since you’ve graduated college with a First Class and you’ve already abandoned your routine of religiously scanning through different job sites for new vacancies and applying for various roles with hilariously absurd criteria, hopelessly hoping that you’d get a call, but…crickets…

Every role would require you to have some sort of experience and to gain experience you need to be hired but no employer would hire you without any experience; and then you’re left stuck in this cycle of financial and career dilemma.

You Are a Slave With Privileges

Once you get into the Job Market, you will be forced to realize that the 9 to 5 routine is a merciless vampire that preys on time. The moment you sign that job contract, your time is no longer yours. You are to do what you are told; show up to work at a specific time, take a break at a specific time, leave at a specific time. And depending on how Mr or Ms X is feeling, that trip to Thailand you’ve been eagerly anticipating might not even happen. So essentially even the free time that you are by law entitled to is not really yours.

Your Friends Will Vanish

You have at some point thought that you would tour the whole of Europe with your battalion of multi-ethnic friends, throw a BBQ party every summer, grow old together, yada yada yada… But where are they now? It’s been a year since you graduated, and life has dispersed you all around the world like seeds.

Various factors will render your circle of 1001 friends nonexistent and you’d even be lucky if you end up with 5 real friends.

Travel. Travel. Travel.

Looking back now, If I had gotten a part-time job at the beginning of my college years, I definitely would have grazed every soil in Europe; but I hadn’t until third year.

I don’t want to get carried away listing out the advantages of travelling as I believe it deserves a of its own – College years are the best times to travel in one’s life. Not only can you travel for a long period of time, you can also pull off living in a foreign country while working AND studying. Yes you might not have adequate financial means but you would have all the time in the world to make a sufficient amount that would enable you to travel to certain places. Travelling becomes different when you start working. You would have all the money in the world but as I’ve mentioned above, your free time is not really yours; unless of course, you are self-employed, a lottery winner or born with a silver spoon in your mouth.

What were you not taught in School?

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  1. Rasyo
    20th August 2019 / 8:43 pm

    I agree that college years are the best time for travelling. Most students have plenty of time to tavel in college years, with simple part-time job, you can be able to make it to many countries.

    On the other hand, I think marks are important in the job market though not everything. In a job application it can be percieved as sign of hardworker personality which allow you to can convince employers that you are diligent in what you do.

  2. 21st August 2019 / 5:13 pm

    I can’t believe how accurate these are! Sadly each one is true. I totally agree with the last one, travel in university. Get a job, save that Mula and just spend it! Money is made to be spent. Nice work on the blog ?

  3. Nay
    22nd August 2019 / 3:56 pm

    Well written piece and basically true about the group sitting on the grass; you either have that moment of ‘i give up, I don’t care anymore’ or you have convinced others to do some group work in the sun ?

  4. 7th October 2019 / 2:43 pm

    It’s true, school doesn’t teach you what ‘real’ life is, but it gives the basic tools to make a living, now it’s up to every individual if they want more, or keep doing what everyone else is doing. Traveling is a way to discover the world, and its unknowns, it’s a nice experience, and for sure there is a lot to learn from, taking the best out of it.
    I personally couldn’t travel while I was in college, just because I found it very hard to work, and do a full time course, I was simply too tired to focus, and get projects done. I had to choose between finishing college or having money in my pocket for traveling. So I chose finishing the college, and I don’t regret it. Now I have less time, but enough money to go almost anywhere.
    Sacrifices need to be made in order to enjoy the full taste of a completed goal. Sometimes are long term or short term sacrifices. It’s up to everyone to decide.

  5. Innocentia
    9th February 2020 / 1:49 pm

    I literally laughed out loud when I read this “I most likely would not have had to be unexpectedly smacked in the face with all these realities”. When I started working after my nursing degree for a good 6 months the reality of life smacked me in the face everyday lol. Even the whole friends thing is 100% true. I have friends living in almost every continent now. The worst is moving to a new city or country because it’s harder to make genuine friends.

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